Sunday, January 11, 2009


I've found myself saying this a lot recently, given that I've been a "mommy" to J and L for nearly 2 years now and none of us have any resolution as of yet. I posted it in a comment on a blog of a wonderful fellow fostermom and thought I'd say it here too.

The 2 hardest rules of fostercare:

1. Treat and love these kids as your own. (This is hard because it's gut-wrenching to do this knowing there's every possibility your heart will be broken if/when the kids leave you and you might never see them again.)

2. Got number 1? Good. NOW...never forget the whole time you're following number 1 that they AREN'T yours. (I'm not debating here the fact that they aren't ours as fp's. I KNOW that. I'm just stating that this is obviously a VERY painful irony we face if we really are doing our jobs as fp's.)


Kathy's Korner said...

It all makes no sense really at all.

And it makes sense why so many foster homes aren't what they should be.


PeWee said...

It's the hardest thing I've ever done, being a foster mom. Not sure how you've done it for so long! ((HUGS))

Camille said...

The rules suck.