Thursday, February 19, 2009

Dates and Another Adoption/Foster Care Issue

I finally have some actual news about J and L! It's hopeful, good news too. There are 3 court dates set. In mid March there is a TPR hearing for L and then in April there will be a 6 month review and a TPR hearing for J. There are reasons that they are being heard separately but the case is stronger in J's situation so a lot of stress will be relieved after the first hearing if it goes the way the county is recommending.

As relieved and thrilled as I am for J, L, and myself I had a hard time writing this today because a blogger friend of mine is losing her fostersons. (A quick aside: I don't like the wording of the last sentence but I don't know how else to say it. They might not legally be hers but she loves them and they're leaving.) They will be moving into the care of their Aunt and Uncle. While I think it's a good idea to keep children with family whenever possible there are some possible issues with the situation. I have another problem with it, too. If this is where the kiddos are going to go, why did they wait 7 months to move on it? The kids now have a good, solid bond with my friend and her dh. Every time kids in care get attached and lose those people they're attached too it causes issues. Not to mention the pain it causes the foster parents. I realize that's a secondary issue but it's still asking a lot of the fps. Hmmmm. I wonder why foster care gets such a bad rap...if you treat people the way fps are treated you burn the good ones out and many of the ones left are the horror stories we hear so much about. Not to mention that dumb moves like this on the part of the workers cause more issues for the kids and kids in care have enough to deal with. The whole thing just irks me. UGH!

Anyway...PeeWee I just want you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you, Meek, and the E's!

1 comment:

stephanie garcia said...

Becky, I am so sorry for your friends! :(